Everyone including gays believes that marriage and family are under attack and are being changed in more than definition. We all know that. We have read all the statistics to prove it. But really, now many families now fit the definition of polyamorous? Are we taking 10%? No. Are we talking 5%? No. My best guess is that we are talking something well to the right of the decimal point. Yet the media continues to parade images that make us think that these are significant minorities and therefore close to or close to becoming mainstream.
The latest example of this is ABC's Nightline. Watch it if you want.
It chronicles a polyamorous family raising a young son. The more we see things like this, the more we believe that lie that these are common. And that is exactly the danger. The media has taken great pains to include gays in ways that mask the very small minority GLABT people are in comparison to the whole of American society. Why there are those who believe there are as many GLABT folks out there in the American population as there are Black or Hispanic in the American ethnic mix. GLABT make up well below 10% of the population -- some would argue no more than 5% -- yet their voice and their presence in the media belies that small number. Here a news show gives significant coverage to what is an anomaly, an oddity, or miniscule minority among American families. Yet, the very showing of this story gives it a presence and credibility larger than life. Just because you can find someone doing it, does not make it normal and does not portend the future shape of the American family. Lets be honest here. That is all I ask.