Imagine that. In the space of a few generations in which it was nearly a universal assumption that the goal was to have a world where as many people as possible can get married, have stable marriages, and raise children, this has become anathema to the modern mind. Indeed, the liberal and progressives are not only not choosing marriage for themselves but insisting that anything close to a traditional view of marriage and the family is the worst kind of bondage and unreasonable in this day and age. How quickly the time has passed.
A world where as many people as possible marry a member of the opposite sex ought to be normal. It is surely the expectation of government. Where is the government going to find the money to take care of people who do not have a spouse to take care of them -- whether in illness or in old age? Not all the tax money in the world could provide for the people to replace where spouses do for each other and to replace the caregivers who enable perhaps 80% of those over 65 to live on their own. Yet somehow this is deemed more dangerous than the idea that marriage is patriarchal and unreasonable.
Stable marriages should be a practical value as well. Though divorce, and particularly no-fault divorce, has created an industry of people trading in their spouses for a different model or abandoning them for a life without marriage, stable marriages are the bedrock of society. Every child of divorced parents and every child who grows up without one parent or the other knows the blessing of growing up in home with a stable marriage. Our culture so filled with constant and urgent change would benefit from good and stable homes in which marriages work out their problems and remain stable amid the chaos that too often passes for everyday life today.
Children raised not by daycare or government program or other institutional settings is not some sort of gold standard but the most basic norm of all. Strangely enough, we live at a time in which people too often presume that parents are not well equipped to care for their children and so-called experts must intervene. That usually happens among those who did not know a stable home with both parents and so have no idea that this is not only the norm overall but the least a child should be able to expect. Yet this has also become a radical idea as well.
These are not American goals but universal standards for all nations and peoples and are generally espoused by all religions as well. Well, at least they used to be. Man for woman and woman for man, marriage until death parts you, and parents raising their children and imparting values and faith while also providing good examples to them. But, I am sad to say, this has become a racial thought in America today and in the world overall. It is no wonder we are in trouble.




