Nowhere is this more true than when it comes to life. When we begin by devaluing the value of the life in the womb, it leads automatically to the devaluation of life outside the womb. The babies who survived abortion can be left to die and the aged and infirm can be put out of their misery and anyone who deems life not worth living can arrange for a painless exit. Do you think that they are not connected?
I well recall when Gilbert Meilander wrote "I Want to Be a Burden to My Children." He immediately pointed out the fallacy of those who insist that options need to remain open so that you can choose not to be a burden to your children (or community or society as a whole). Living wills, advance directives, and durable powers of attorney are all different ways of trying to take the family out of the loop when a decision has to be rendered. It is like the dying are giving permission to the living to let them die.
Every single one of us has been or will end up being a “burden” on others. The young are dependent upon the care, protection, and provision of their parents. The ill are equally dependent upon the kindness and care of family or strangers. The aged are highly likely to need some form of care or supervision as the years pile up (and they do as we are graying as a society). I sat in an ER for a while a couple of months ago and listened to an aged daughter who was bringing her even more aged father in for treatment. The future of our lives always seem to look like care-giving. But it this bad? We certainly resist it (from youth to old age) and we insist that you are not the boss of me. But is it really a bad thing to be dependent upon others? Is that not the definition of humanity?
A nation's laws reflect its values and its values are reflected in its laws. More and more we seem not to have placed much stake on life. We are deathly afraid of suffering, to be sure, but I am not convinced that has arisen to a value. We are stridently individualistic but again the question remains is this a value. Some of these things are not so much formed values as they are the result of an absence of values -- like life and family and community. Odd that someone would wait around for the government to approve medically assisted suicide (pain free, of course) but summarily dismiss the wishes of the family to have the loved one with them longer. Is the avoidance of suffering our prime directive? How far could you go with such a value?
All of this flies square in the face of the suffering God whose suffering redeems humanity. To say that this is not Christian is not enough. It is positively anti-Christian. Life is a primary Christian value -- God who created and sustains all life, including those with disability or limitation. Life is the universal Christian value -- God who comes in flesh in order that the God who cannot die might suffer and die for those who can be rescued and redeemed only by His self-offering. Is there a Jesus who has not come to suffer?
The individual goal of control over life is not quite Christian either or Jesus would not have us turn the other cheek. No, we have got to absent from our minds the whole screwy idea of what daddy would have wanted us to do? Daddy's wishes are a profound influence over funeral practices but not salutary ones. They are even worse on issues of life. The same with the horrible question of whether or not their life is worth living. How do you answer that question without values? Meilander had it right. How can we value the life the person now has? That should be the value inherent in all of our values and if we get this wrong, the rest do not matter all that much. And if this value does not apply to all lives, it applies to none.