Tuesday, July 2, 2013

In case you ever wondered...

Wondered.... what gay and lesbian spouses can teach straight ones about living happily ever after.  Well, that is one of the things you might find in this Atlantic article entitled The Gay Guy to Wedded Bliss....

According to Atlantic:  Research finds that same-sex unions are happier than heterosexual marriages. Hmmmmm.  Well, I think you know where this article is headed.  What is most amazing is that the author seems intent upon ignoring most of the unpleasant things about gay and lesbian marriage, spinning the whole idea in a positive light that defies statistics, reason, and facts.

Some of the facts...
  • male same-sex marriages break up at twice the rate of heterosexual marriages...
  • the break-up rate for lesbians is a stunning 77 percent higher than that of same-sex male unions...
  • after four years, 88 percent of married opposite sex couples are together, 67 percent of opposite-sex cohabiting couples, and only 37 percent of same-sex cohabitors. After eight years, those numbers fall to 82 percent, 60 percent, and 25 percent, respectively...
  • the cessation of sex -- so common among lesbians that it has a name:  lesbian bed death...
  • while only 4 percent of male/female couples allowed extra marital sexual relationships, 40 percent of gay men in legally recognized unions and 49 percent in long-term cohabiting unions allowed them...
  • the frequency of sex outside gay relationships ranged from two to a whopping 2,500 separate incidents. The median was 41.5 extracurricular incidents since the relationship’s beginning. Frequency in the last year ranged from zero to 350 occurrences of outside sex, with a median of eight incidences in the last twelve months...
  • the "stifling gender stereotypes" that predominate heterosexuals is largely missing from same sex marriages... except that the high value placed upon child care among lesbians tends to threaten the relationship and male same sex marriages tend to fight over who has to stay home with the kids...   
But you can read a better review of Atlantic's puff piece here.... 

My point is this.  Gay marriage does not seek to have what heterosexuals have.  Gay marriage seeks to redefine marriage in ways that consistently challenge and undermine the very foundations that have characterized marriage form the beginning.  This is not a small thing but a grave consequence of the decision to recognize same sex marriages.  If you want to know where we are headed in America, take a look at some of the studies done of the European nations where same sex marriage has a longer history.  It ain't pretty.  Unless, of course, your whole desire is to finish the job of removing children from any definition of marriage, eliminate any sense that marriage is for worse as well as for better, or any restrictions upon the whims, desires, and behaviors of those who are married.... if that is you choice, then the impending changes being thrust upon straight marriage by gay marriage are right down your aisle...

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