- 20% of all boys in America will be diagnosed and treated for ADD or ADHD this year. . . many of them for being, well, boys. . . a 37% increase in ten years. . .
- girls (both in behavior and personality) have become the gold standard in both educational models and the school systems of America. . .
- there is a teaching bias in many classrooms against boys that has taken over the classroom, curriculum, and marks boys' behavior as inappropriate. . .
- boys today are retreating from marriage, from family, and from the forefront of science and academia because they are seen as unnecessary or unfit. . .
Yet this is harming women as much as it is hurting men and corrupting the idea and future of the family even more. How long can we continue to label boys being boys a pathology or diagnosis requiring medication? How long can we marginalize boys from the mainstream of life and marriage and family? When will we wake up to the damage already done and to those still growing up into what it means to be a man?
If we don't know what we're doing, maybe we shouldn't be doing it. What we have done has not proven helpful to anyone. Boys have a dearth of good role models at home, in school, and in life in general. The media delights in portraying men as unstable, immature, and misogynistic. Drugs are being used without regard to their effect over the long haul. What we are doing is not improving things, maybe we should stop and try something else.
This crisis about boys and men has become normative in the Black community. More Black teens and young adults are in trouble with the law, school, without a father at home, etc... than the reverse. Yes, there are other factors at play here but our recent history in Ferguson and NYC has only highlighted what is surely on the horizon for other cultures and ethnic segments of our population. There has got to be a better way!