Monday, July 29, 2019
Offended by offense. . .
Quite frankly, I am sick of the word. I am tired of the way people banter it about -- Christian people. I am tired of those who claim to be offended by their pastor when he is not as attentive to them as they wish or does not do what they desire. Their faith is not in doubt and they are not scandalized. They are simply miffed, peeved, ticked off. That is not offense. Do not use the word in such a way that it makes shallow and meaningless that which truly offends. I am tired by those who say they are offended when they go to a church somewhere and do not like the music they hear or the welcome they received or the fact that they could not commune in a place where they were not members or in fellowship or believed the same faith. You are not offended. You are angry. But you are angry at the wrong things. That is what offends me. When people are not angry over the distortion of the true Gospel or the preaching of anything but Christ crucified or the fact that the body and blood of Christ are treated casually or a place at the Lord's table as a mere matter of polite hospitality -- well, that is what offends me. But these have become the bad people, bad churches, and bad positions in a world in which truth is true only for a breath but feelings last forever.
It is high time that we were all reminded what matters and what doesn't. Quite frankly, your feelings are not all that important. Feelings come and go. Feelings do not last. Check the divorce rates for my facts to support that statement. Feelings are not our foundation nor are feelings the primary drivers of faith, doctrine, and truth. Hurt feelings are not an offense. It is not nice and nobody likes having somebody walk all over their feelings but that is not offense. Hurt feelings do not threaten your faith. But those who speak the creed but do not believe its words, that is offensive. Those who abuse the Scriptures to make them say what they want them to say, that is offensive. Those who treat the body and blood of Christ as something ordinary or casual or common, that is offensive. Those who insist that people are not baptized unless they have first reached a certain age and are baptized in a certain way but that baptism itself does nothing but symbolize their own decision, that is offensive. Those who insist that what the Bible calls facts are legend or myth, that is offensive. Those who elevate the principle of love above the God man who in love stretches His arms out in suffering, that is offensive.
We pastors have taught our people that when the church does not do what you want or does what you do not want or when your feelings are hurt in some way by pastor or people in the pews, that is a big thing -- something so big that it justifies leaving the church or abandoning the faith entirely. Even if we did not say it from the pulpit, we taught them this by failing to teach them clearly what does matter. So when some Lutheran family decides that they are going to another church because they like the beat of the music or the youth sports program or the upbeat messages that tell you how to get God to get what you want, we owe it to them to say that they are really leaving the faith. Renouncing your baptism and rejecting Christ's flesh and blood in the Eucharist or reasoning away the truths of Scripture are not some little things that do not count but go to the heart and core of what it means to believe God, to trust in His Word, and to be saved. When we tell our people that it does not matter which church you go do as long as you go or that it is okay to let your children decide if and when they want to go to church or that membership means rights and privileges without responsibilities and obligations, well, then, we have taught them to be offended by what does not count and to dismiss the things that do.
If we cannot learn what it means to be offended, then we need to excise that word from our vocabulary. Offense is not about the fast food lane taking too long or a phone queue that requires us to push too many buttons or about people driving too slowly on the interstate or the person who is not smiling at us when they wait on us. These things may be rude and irritating but that is not what it means to be offended. Christians especially need to awaken to the way this word is being used wrongly. Christians need to know what is offensive and what does matter. What matters is doctrine and the practice that reflects that doctrine. That is what counts. What matters is truth that endures forever. That is what counts. What matters is eternal life (not your best life now). That is what matters. Once we teach our people what matters and what does have the power to offend (to scandalize and threaten our faith), we will begin to see some of the baloney that consumes so much of our time and energy disappear and we will be free to contend for the faith without the fear that somebody won't like and will pack up their toys and play in somebody else's toy box.
The Church will not prosper by the elevation of feelings to the place of doctrine and truth and the Church will not appeal to those outside the faith by pandering to feelings over the bones of truth and doctrine. We who are called pastors have a special responsibility to make sure that people know the truth the saves and the feelings that distract from Him who is the Way, the Truth, and the Life. Before it is too late. . .