Friday, January 18, 2019

Toxic thoughts on toxic masculinity. . .

We live in a time when, if it is not a sin to be male, it is at least suspect.  From the #METOO movement to radical feminism that has transformed male and female to the gender identity movement that has become the avant garde social cause of the day, the least and the most lost among all people is the man.  Even the folks who sell us razors to shave our beards and scents to cover up our manly odor have jumped on the bandwagon to warn of men being manly as if it were a disease.  Masculinity itself is under siege and has been marked as toxic to men, women, and children.

In reality, of course, there is no such things as toxic masculinity -- only males who behave as children and are not masculine at all.  If anything, masculinity is not something pervading boys in their journey to maturity or our society as a whole.  It is in short supply.  We live in a woman's world in which women do not need men to support them, defend them, give them children, or even be friends.  The only good man today is one who does not think like, speak like, or act like a man.  Boys in school are treated with drugs and discipline for their failure to be like girls.  Universities have become places where ideas too strong to face are relegated to a prison of thoughts and both men and women given safe places where they can find a refuge from things they find offensive.  The media seems to suggest that most straight men are either homophobic or closeted gay and the only good men are those who are fully in touch with their feminine side.

Maybe it was a man's world and there were certainly many men behaving badly but masculinity is not the some toxic force that must be hidden away or treated as something dangerous.  It is the gift, the gift of complementarity created by God, a gift not only needed because we see the wisdom of it all but the very design that under girds all of creation.  The most dangerous things to our culture is not masculinity but a lack of it, in which men have no role or purpose or dignity to aspire to and to live out in concert with women.

If there is a problem with masculinity, could it be that too many homes have an absent father or never had one at all?  Could it be that painting all of men as toxic, sexist, abusive, and threatening has consigned them to the fringes of our society where it is more likely for them to become toxic, sexist, abusive, or threatening?  Could it be that some arenas of the church have actually adopted this idea and created a false Christianity in which the first sin men must confess is being a man?

As the father of two young men and a young woman and the grandfather of one young girl, I live in fear for a world in which gender is divorced from anatomy, questions replace statements in the values and the roles in which we work together for the common good, and one gender is presumed to be suspect at best or toxic at worst.  The family is already under too much pressure to survive the generic condemnation of one its constituent parts.  The church is a community already threatened by a loss of the divine reality with skepticism toward the Word of God now to blame God for the sins of some and to confuse His order with the infusion of prevailing politically correct ideas that contradict that Word. 

So thank you but no, I refuse to confess that being masculine is toxic.  I refuse not because of my self-esteem but purely out of my respect for God and His order, no matter how badly we have abused His gift or distorted His creative intent.  I refuse to believe that to tell a boy to be a man is a bad thing. 


Anonymous said...

The current secular is trying to destroy the "normal" family of
a father, mother, and children. Marriage has been redefined as
two people who love each other. That opens the door to gay marriage
and lesbian marriage. By encouraging discussion of transgender
issues in grade school, we see people reject their God-given gender.

God created man to be the husband and father in the family. He also
created woman to be the wife and mother in the family. The Christian
Church needs to hold fast to the divine institution of marriage.

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John Joseph Flanagan said...
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John Joseph Flanagan said...

If you haven't already accepted it, we must all consider the fact that America has become morally debased and cannot be reformed. We must accept the idea we are aliens, pilgrims and strangers on the earth. We may try to live in peace with this society, but we will still find ourselves branded as non conformists and religious zealots. We should not be quiet about our faith and values as Christians, but remember that our convictions are rejected, Our Lord was rejected, and this will be the case from now on in this formerly Christian nation.

Christopher Pariona said...

Beign a man means having honesty, integrity, compassion for fellow man.

Christopher Pariona said...

I was cursed at by a transgender unfairly recently, didn't give him a reason to yell towards me. My elders taught me to be a man to handle things in a civilized, non violent way but this person threatened to hurt me with an object. Stood my ground looked him in the eyes and gave him the option to act on it, he walked away...